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The Process We Use To Get Out of Our Own Way

The Process We Use To Get Out of Our Own Way



“Help! I can’t get out of my own way!”


Shannon here, and this recently went down at Big Impact Live. An amazing woman came up to me, towards the end of the 2nd day and asked to speak with me for a minute.

She began to tell me how she has all these big dreams of changing the world, having a big impact and her clients going crazy to hear her life changing message.  With the 2 clients she has – they do, but she’s having a hard time enrolling more.

She went on to tell me how she speaks once a month – but can’t seem to get any more gigs. And it’s crushing her soul.

“Shannon, I know I have this HUGE message – and everyone I share it with can’t get enough of it – but I just can’t seem to reach more people.  Do you have an idea that can help me?”

We ended up speaking for quite a while. It was only then that she finally told me the real question that was bothering her:

“I just feel like I know exactly what to do (no, she didn’t need more ideas) – I keep spinning my wheels and I can’t seem to get out of my own way, help!”

I then gave her our hot process how Mark and I get out of OUR own way. It’s worked with us from the beginning and it’s something our private clients LOVE. So when I shared it with this woman, she told me she felt the change already happening.


So here it is:



Before you ‘do’ anything, you first have to notice what it is that’s holding you back. Because we’re miraculous beings operating on a multitude of levels – what’s holding us back is often barely noticeable.

Meaning – as soon as you see, hear or feel the first inkling of a negative vibe – notice it. Check it in with it. Hold on to it. It might feel like fiery hell, but the more you notice it, the more you can change it. As Martin Luther King said, “Only in the darkness can you see stars”. 



Start with questions like:

  • Is this true?
  • Does this serve me?
  • Is this negativity helping my tribe?

When you notice it and then question it – you release it from within you. So for example, let’s say as soon as you’re thinking about offering a $5,000 program to a new client, you freeze and think to yourself, “No one will ever pay me $5,000 for this”.

As you notice that statement that causes you to freeze, question it:

“Is it true that NO ONE will ever pay me?”

“Does this statement serve me?”

“Is this statement ultimately helping my tribe?”

And just LEAN into how ASKING that feels. Can you experience the change? RIGHT? HOT! But there’s more:



Now that you’ve released the negativity from within you – it’s time to move forward. So let’s make an offering. An offering means to turn the negative into a positive through a suggestion, or offer.

Using the previous example you’d make an offering like:

“The right person would absolutely pay me $5,000 for this level of transformation”

“People pay this kind of money and more when a leader is aligned with their tribe”

“Transformation comes with commitment, and all $5,000 is a dedicated commitment to their transformation”



Once you’ve sent an offering, it’s time to act on it. We’re not talking about moving mountains – just taking a single step. What is one step you can take with this new offering?

  • Send an email to a promoter you’ve been in touch with.
  • Call a local organization you know of and ask if they’re audience would
    benefit from your talk
  • Connect with local Meetup groups
  • Call 3 colleagues who can help put you in touch with local groups they know


Can you see how this process can turn around what’s been holding you back?

Do you feel it? Leave a comment below and let us know this:


“How Did This Process Help You?  What AHA’s Did you get?”


Let us know in the comments below my friend. We’re here for you!

In your corner and by your side,

Mark & Shannon

3 thoughts on “The Process We Use To Get Out of Our Own Way

  1. This is a great practice. Recently I have come to notice – or maybe accept – that I can only close sales with clients when I have zero negative thoughts in my head. So I really like this practice of working on a) the first negative thought, no matter how small, and b) transforming that thought by transforming it into something positive.

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